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Wednesday

 empty nest


today is the first day in 33 years that i don't have a child to take care of.

of course i still have children, and they still need care,
 but i am not shopping, cooking and cleaning for them.
i am not taking them anywhere, or hanging their clothes to dry.  
i am not finding any surprises they have left in my absence.
everything is exactly as i left it.

i have fantasized about this day since probably
the first week of emma's life.
that someday i wouldn't be responsible for everything.
that i could "do what i wanted".
well, hello day; here you are.

what have i done with my day so far?

 i got up and went into frances's bed
and looked out the window for awhile.

i practiced my yoga in complete silence.

i ate breakfast alone
with no reason to turn the radio down.

i worked.  i made lunch.

i started a grocery list for one.  i called my mother.

i have ambitious mental lists of all the productive things
i will accomplish in my free evenings.
photo albums, baby clothes to knit,
bookshelves to have built, so many books to read.

i could end up working late 7 days a week
and living on canned beans over lettuce
which has been known to happen.

right now i am just listening to 
the silence of one, plus
an old rabbit who is sneezing.

Thursday

we did so many things in quarantine
to make the time inside seem special

we never dreamed 
the months would 
stretch on and on

virtual dinner party 
every night 
from mid march
thru the end of may


we started with 
dinner for 2
then mary returned 
and we were 3


we made things 
like sandwiches 
with hobnobs and 
fancy ice cream


mary made ambitious 
bread recipes like 
bagels and pizza


emma taught baking on zoom



our dinners went outdoors


i documented my favorite kitchen tools






curiously, i did no knitting
but i did read war and peace

Friday

new shade garden











Thursday

they really are better with my new stove






merry christmas 2017

Monday


me and a rented 10' truck said goodbye to Bovina


our first stop was the open door.  

i was crushed to see that the open door is closed for good.  
here my kids and i found countless treasures for pennies. 
a whole bag of clothes for a dollar.  fun t shirts.  
an orange fake fur double breasted coat.  
a baby's orange hunting cap with ear flaps.  
dishes.  lamps.  furniture.  
and not only the thrill of finding something in the endless piles 
of depressing cast offs, 
but the thrill of finding one of the few moments 
when the open door was actually open for business.





next stop was one of my dependable farm stands 
run by a wonderful woman named Kathy; we have always referred to the stand as "28".
when i first started coming to Bovina, the money boxes weren't locked.  
still, the help-yourself farm stand is always a thrill 
and one of my favorite ways to buy produce


the Bovina library is one of this country's greatest treasures.  really.
many of the books have calligraphy on the lending card pockets.  
there are so many incredible first editions of both kids and adult books.  
i have really missed using this library the last few years, and now nevermore.


across the street from the library is the playground.  
this dome always reminds me of an incredible photo of Mary 
with a huge scab on her arm from falling off of something.
when the kids were younger they used to beg as we drove by
to get out of the car and play after driving 4 hours to get up here.  
we almost always said no, because we just wanted to 
get to the trailer and get settled.  
but i wish i had said yes more often.


i am not including any photos of the trailer 
since i have always hated it and wanted
 nothing more than burn it down.  
but the land on Huff Road is amazing 
and lovely and will be in my heart forever.

the first place i would always go after arriving was the rock. 
 it is actually two rocks.  
when the kids were little all four of us would sit there 
and enjoy the view towards the mountains, 
and at dusk watch for deer.  
as the kids got older i would go by myself.  
it is a good place to think, and to cry, which i did a lot of here.


 the view from the rock


from the rock i would usually walk down the path lined with pine trees.  
i could never walk this way without thinking of sledding here in winter.  
my favorite memory is when one year i got a camera for christmas 
and we made movies of me and the girls from the back of the sled.  
sadly i have lost them.


one of my favorite spots is this old apple tree 
growing alongside a rock wall.  
there is usually some water that runs under the wall; 
more or less depending on the time of year.

emma's dog eloise and i used to come here 
every time she came up for a visit.  
she loved rooting around for fallen apples and 
hopping on and off the wall.  
i would lie on the wall and look up.
sometimes i would bring knitting.





on labor day 2016 this is the last place i walked with eloise.  
she died later that day after eating some 
wild mushrooms growing on the property.  
now when i come to the apple tree 
i always cry a little missing her.  
she was a wonderful dog and hiking partner.


i love this set of burch trees.  
we planted them the first year we were here.
one summer we came here for dinner in the back of the red truck.
we used to talk about making a sleeping cabin here made of glass.


so many beautiful mossy rocks in the woods


 a broken hunting stand


 one of the many rock walls


fall forest floor


the hammock and the tree house with swings.  
the tree house was a bit late for the kids; 
they had kind of grown out of it by the time it was finished, 
but they did use it a bit.  
we had a pulley that brought a wire basket up and down.  
the ladder is a bit scary.  
i would use the platform for yoga in the summer.


there are so many other places and things i love up here 
that i don't have photos of.  
but i will remember them.  and people i will miss.  
all the dinners shared with alan pam and rosie.  
all the canning, cooking, and baking i did 
in that little trailer kitchen which was weirdly efficient.  
the farmer's market veggie pies.  the yarn lady up the mountain.  
stewart's before it got sold.  
dubben's old timey hardware store.  the co op.  
the fish store which is no more.  table on ten.  
driving on beautiful winding country roads all alone.  
midnight mass at the old stone church.  
all the holidays.  long weeks in summer.  
driving the pick up.  swimming in the pond and the andes pool.  
millions of stars.  camp fires.  barbecues.  eating outside.  silence.